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The order of change

We may begin deep listening with the hope that something inside that is angry, scared or hurting will change. But it is not the angry, scared or hurt place that changes first. We change first, by learning to relax in the way we hold our anger, fear or hurt places. Next as we relax into this new relationship, our perception of what inside is angry, scared or hurt begins to change. We become so intimate with these places, when we are seeing clearly we recognize their perfection and lose our investment in our worry about change. And then, in its own time, if we are providing just the right dose of accepting, expansive attention, the angry, scared or hurt place can finally begin its own process for change.


Accepting our natural resistance to change

Through deep inner listening, we awaken by experiencing our identity no longer as our personality and wounding but as part of the infinite and ever changing field of Love and liquid. It is from this field of Love, our rightful home, that we then turn toward our hurts with an ease and grace and spaciousness that envelops and warms and opens to raw places and soothes sharp edges, like water over rock.

With all the challenges of being human and living a life through a personality on this planet one would think we would easily take up residence in this welcoming space. But something inside most of us resists change. Even in the sweet face of positive change, we may clamp down, holding our place in the familiar like a dog digging his heels in.In focusing, that place that resists, like anything we meet inside, receives a warm hello and welcome from the womb-like expanding/contracting waves of warmth called Presence, surrounding it like it’s its baby.